The Ministry Model of a Charitable Heart

Information wants to be free. However, unconscious conflicts often arise in exchanging knowledge and information for money. In response, many individuals and institutions make their services available to anyone interested on a voluntary, offer-whatever-you-can basis. a-charitable-heartThe expectation is that those fortunate enough to have sufficient financial resources and who resonate with the mission – “to put a small dent in the suffering in the world” – will offer support so that services can be freely provided to those less fortunate.

How do we make a decision regarding what to offer? What seems to work best is to find that place where our brain observes us being overly fearful and meager, and the opposite neural circuitry where we can observe ourselves being extravagant and grandiose. Whatever we give, our brain is watching and generating an internal, mostly unconscious narrative about us. Bearing that in mind, it’s probably best to donate from The Goldilocks Zone of our charitable heart – not too little and not too much. In other words, what we would feel good about receiving were positions reversed.

“Let us try to teach and model generosity and altruism, because we are born selfish. Let us understand what our own selfish genes are up to, because we may then at least have the chance to upset their designs, something that no other species has ever aspired to do.”
~Richard Dawkins, The Selfish Gene

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How Applied Healing Happens

“My idea was pretty simple at the beginning,” said Wavy Gravy (Hugh Romney). “I started to volunteer in wards for the terminally ill children and burn victims, just go in there, dressed as a clown, and cheer them up a little bit—spread around some laughs and giggles. But things do get very tough in there—very tough. You see some pretty terrible things in these wards. Children dying or mutilated is nothing you ever get used to looking at.

wavy2“One day, as I was making the rounds, I came across a room that had the shades drawn. I peeked in, and it was a room with badly burned children in it. They had them in chrome crib beds with walls on the sides so they couldn’t crawl out or fall out when it got too terrible in there. There was one little black kid who was horribly burned. He looked like burnt toast. Pieces of his face weren’t there. Pieces of his ears were missing. Where was his mouth? You could hardly tell who he was. There was no way of pinning a person to the face, what there was of it. It was just terrible, mind-boggling. My jaw dropped and I gasped. I became completely unglued.

“I remember flashing black to the anti-war movement. There was a picture of a napalmed kid I used to carry around on a poster to try to wake people up to that—everybody, including the antiwar people. Suddenly here was that kid right in front of me, unbelievably painful to behold.

“My mind went off in all sorts of directions. What’s it going to be like if he lives? Will he ever play with other kids, or just be this monster that kids goof on? And I was overwhelmed by my situation, too. Here’s this guy in a clown suit, come in to cheer kids up but falling to pieces right in front of them —and probably making the kid feel even worse, like, “I even make clowns cry.”

“So there we were, burnt toast kid and unglued clown. What a sight. I was fighting just to stay there, trying to get beyond my horror. All of a sudden this other kid came whizzing by—I think he was skating with his IV pole — and he stopped, looked at the other kid, and came out with “Hey, you ugly!”

Just like that.

And the burnt kid made a gurgling noise, a kind of laugh. His face moved around. And I just went for his eyes: we locked together right there, and everything else dissolved. It was like going through a tunnel right to his heart. All the burned flesh disappeared.

“Being able to look “you ugly” in the eye has done a lot for me. Once I do that, I can go on to see what might be done that can ease the pain. I can see what I can work with that’s right in front of me —obvious things.


“Like when we were setting up the show Godzilla in the kid’s leukemia ward. I was making kids up as clown. One kid was totally bald, and when I finished doing his face, another kid said, “Go on and do the rest of his head.”

The kid loved the idea. And after that his sister said, “Hey, we could watch the movie on Billy’s head.” We did, and he loved it. It was quite a moment. especially when the doctors arrived. “Come on in. We’re watching Godzilla on Billy’s head.”

“I don’t know: burned skin or bald heads on little kids, kids hurting so bad and so afraid and probably dying—what do you do? Well, you face it, I guess. Face it and stay open and then see what you can do. “I got the idea of carrying popcorn. When a kid is crying. I dab at the tears with popcorn and pop it into my mouth, or into his or hers, and we just sit around together and eat the tears.

“The mind is a living organism that chaperons us everywhere, haloing our bodies as the biosphere does the earth. It informs us of everything we think, feel, and say. Consciousness is as central to life as the ecosystem is to the earth. We can’t live without it, nor can it be escaped. It is home. Neglect consciousness — denigrate it, violate it — and like the earth, the individual suffers, and often causes suffering, too. On the other hand, nurture consciousness — understand its nature, inhabit it wisely — and we flourish, and elevate society too.”

~ Alan Clements


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The One Position Corporate America Rarely Hires For

If you ask most corporate CEOs and Human Resource Managers what the most important duties of their Chief Feedback Officer are, the feedback you’re likely to get will be a blank stare. Most won’t have a clue what you’re talking about. Which is interesting, especially when you consider that the number one way the human brain learns and grows is … through feedback.

Here’s a list of virtues – as a high-level CFEO – you might ideally embrace:

  1. You understand that the primary way the brain grows cells and network connections is through feedback loops.
  2. You subscribe to the research that shows that collaborative communication fosters attachment and loyalty.
  3. You recognize that lack of timely, constructive feedback is the Number One complaint of employees the world over.
  4. Chief Listening OfficerYou are willing to wear the Chief Learning Officer’s hat and the Chief Listening Officer’s hat from time to time.
  5. You know the value of and the power in repeatedly answering The Big Brain Question “Yes” for your employees.
  6. You totally get how important Irrational Commitment is to job satisfaction, performance and loyalty.
  7. You promote and structure an environment that kindly encourages and supports Impeccability Practices.
  8. You help foster transient hypofrontality in support of creativity in research and development.
  9. You help people manage stress while seeking to foster a neophilic environment.
  10. You recognize that the workplace is where the bulk of most employees’ lives unfold and you want theirs and yours to be a juicy, good-at-the-end, life well-lived.
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The Great Listening Legend

I’ve put this web page up here very much tongue-in-cheek. If there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that there really are no listening legends. Accomplished listening is challenging work that demands the same regular practice as any accomplished skill, not unlike piano-playing or golf…

Great Listening Legend

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101 Reasons to Choose a Brain Educator as a Consultant

Here is a compilation of 101 “reasons” why you might want to consult with a brain educator. It’s based primarily on my own personal experience – an N of 1. The primary advantage is that I bring to the table is an intimate knowledge of all the conditions and circumstances below and can readily recognize when others are struggling with them.

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1. We can often recognize and remedy signs of compromised brain functioning.

2. We are not solely reliant upon your fee for survival.

3. We’re rarely subject to marketplace fads and self-promotions.

4. We can generally avoid unconsciously created client dependencies.

5. Client – consultant interests are rarely misaligned or in conflict.

6. Motivated Reasoning will only occasionally provide poor direction.

7. We have no involvement with HMO’s (need I say more?).

8. We bring critical awareness of transference/countertransference to the work.

9. We are not subject to licensing requirements that limit effectiveness.

10. We operate meta-morally.

11. We are Listening Legends.

12. We are intimately familiar with the creative power of transient hypofrontality.

13. We know the power in positively answering The Big Brain Question.

14. We rarely subject clients to the Actor-Observer Bias

15. We very often ask “How can…?” rather than “Why?” or simply “How?”

16. We focus on turning poison into medicine.

17. We’re very skillful in addressing The Einstellung Effect.

18. We know the power of making an Irrational Commitment.

19. We’re familiar with the Genetics of Joy.

20. We support and encourage speaking truth to power.

21. We fully understand the impact of The Ritual Tribal Abandonment of Mothers.

22. We can help you deal with The Super-Secret Enemy.

23. We skillfully work with flexible, impeccable scheduling.


25. We solicit constructive live-session feedback.

26. We work toward measurable, recognizable results.

27. We are intimately skilled in the workings of Polyvagal Theory.

28. We recognize the need for and work required on Forgiveness.

29. We’re familiar with the 9 Pathways of Neural Integration.

30. We understand the importance of Play.

31. We work to eliminate any inherent conflicts of interest.

32. We can teach you to trust in “The Thoughtful Bowel.”

33. We are intimately familiar with how each of The Seven Brains work.

34. We grok the power of prosody in relationships.

35. We recognize that there’s a real Science of Hope.

36. We help you fully attain the critical 1% improvement.

37. We help co-design, encourage and support Deliberate Practice.

38. We are skilled at helping people master moral tests.

39. We do our best to help right any Work / Play imbalance.

40. We are knowledgeable about a wide variety of Integration Modalities.

41. We work to help resolve The Prefrontal Paradox.

42. We promote and encourage varieties of healthy emotional self-regulation.

43. We can c0-create ways to skillfully work with The Three Noble Principles.

44. We’re familiar with the many, many ways people Lose Their Smiles.

45. We have lots of examples for both waking up and growing up in handling money.

46. We can help you become your own Chief Adrenal Officer.

47. We have a wealth of experience in helping people navigate The Uncanny Valley.

48. We know the value of vulnerability as a requirement for Whole Heartedness.

49. We recognize how working through adversity establishes a foundation for hope.

Just Plain nuts50. We help make love and belonging non-negotiable.

51. We can point to the riches that can result from facing your demons.

52. We are mindful not to reenact trauma without attempting resolution.

53. We are rarely victimized by the Overconfidence Effect.

54. We tend to offer authentic rather than Idiot Compassion.

55. We’re not handcuffed by confidentiality. We don’t have to report you when your brain malfunctions.

56. We are learners and collaborators and thus less handicapped by own self-development (or lack thereof).

57. We tend to have close contact with The Conversational Nature of Reality.

58. We’re skilled in working with negative transferences.

59. We have tried and true methods of teaching you to relax and open to the unknown.

60. We can help you face and embrace life’s fierce need to change you.

61. We rarely feel victimized by information bias.

62. We know the importance of, and have ways and means for repairing ruptured relationships.

63. We are intimately familiar with the energy challenges of really skillful listening.

64. We can help you explore The Two Perilous Questions.

65. We are intimately aware of the strengths and limitations of Emotional Mutability.

66. We have great experience working with The Unthought Known.

67. We have the tools and experience to steer you away from The 4 Horsemen of Neuro-Annihilation.

68. Expectation to respond to emergencies during non-work hours

69. We deliberately address adverse possibilities of blindness to Outcome Bias.

70. Susceptibility to the Illusion of Control

71. Too much work; not enough help

72. Self-imposed or client-imposed elevated stress levels

73. Getting booted off the positive transference pedestal

74. Regularly succumbed to Trait Ascription Bias


75. The inevitable “Black Swan” client

76. No paid sick-leave

77. Few tools for addressing Unthought Known

78. Client perception distortion

79. Continual focus on emotionally traumatic experience

80. Frequent struggle with Backfire Effect

81. Belonging to the 95% cohort who think we’re above average


83. We enjoy the challenge of changing perspective when new info comes to light (The Dude Effect)

84. We pay attention to and work to overcome the Curse of Knowledge

85. We keep close tabs on any Empathy Gap

86. We’re rarely  Functionally Fixed in our consulting approach

87. We deliberately avoid Idiot Compassion


89. No legal requirement to betray trusting, vulnerable clients

90. We’re savvy in knowing how to counteract the brain’s Inherent Negativity Bias

91. We’re only occasionally susceptible to the Observer-Expectancy Effect

92. We’re rarely seduced into therapeutic nihilism

93. We make accurate, ongoing assessments of Hippocratic Oath adherence


95. We have many tools in the box to combat the Pro-Innovation Bias

96. We’re unlikely to subject clients to the Texas Sharpshooter Fallacy

97. We’re sufficiently experienced not to make the Fundamental Attribution Error

98. We appropriately employ the Illusion of Transparency

99. We’re generally willing to deal with our own transient, temporary insanity

100. We refuse to allow the Dunning-Kruger Effect to run rampant

101. We have little inclination to subject clients or this list to the Semmelweis Reflex

102. No concern with the DSM-V (On my deathbed I’ll have zero interest in proclaiming: “I got all the Diagnostic Codes correct!”)

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